My House Of Belonging

"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.
She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never.
Being a mother is something absolutely new to her...
And, with each child, she is born anew."
~ Rajneesh

The song playing is "If I Could" performed by Barbra Streissand

My first Mother's Day, with my firstborn son, Shannon, May 1971

"To have a child is to decide forever
to have your heart walking around outside your body."
~ Elizabeth Stone

Me with my daughter Amanda (2 weeks old) and Shannon (a proud nine year old brother) in February 1980.

More photo images of our family throughout this page

A Mother's Parable

A young mother set her foot on the path of life. "Is the way long?" she asked.



Her Guide smiled and said, "Yes. And the way is long, and you will be old before you reach the end of it, but the end will be better than the beginning."

But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years. So she played with her children and gathered flowers for them along the way. She bathed them in clear streams. The sun shone on them, and life was good. The young mother said, "Nothing will ever be lovelier than this."

Then night came, and a storm, and the path became dark. Her children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her wings. The children said, "Oh Mother we are not afraid for you are near, and no harm can come."

And the mother said, "This is better than the brightness of the sun, for I have taught my children courage."

The morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary, but at all times she said to the children, "A little patience, and we are soon there." So the children climbed, and they climbed, and when they reached the top they said, "We could not have done it without you Mother."

And the mother looked up at the stars when she lay down that night and said, "This is better than the last day, for my children have learned fortitude in the face of a storm. Yesterday I gave them courage, today I have given them strength."

The next day there came strange clouds which darkened the earth: war, hate, evil, and the children groped and stumbled, and the mother said, "Look up, lift your eyes to the Light." The children saw above the clouds an everlasting glory, and it guided them and brought them beyond the darkness.

That night the mother said, "This is the best day of all, for I have shown my children God.



My precious grown children, Shannon & Amanda

The days went on, and the weeks, and the months, and the years, and the mother grew old, and she was little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. When the way was hard, they helped their mother; and when the way was rough, they lifted her, for she was as light as a feather. At last they came to a hill, and beyond the hill they could see a winding road and golden gates flung wide.

And the mother said, "I have reached the end of my journey, and now I know that the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk alone, and their children after them."

And the children said, "You will always walk with us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates."

And they stood and watched her as she went on alone. The gates closed after her, and they said,"We cannot see her, but she is with us still. A mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a living presence. "

~ Temple Bailey (1889-1953) ~
Written for Good Housekeeping Magazine in 1933



Your Mother

Your Mother is always with you.
She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street.
She's the smell of certain foods you remember,
Flowers you pick and perfume that she wore.
She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well.
She's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day.
She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep,
The colors of a rainbow.
She is Christmas morning.

Your Mother lives inside your laughter.
And she's crystallized in every tear drop.
She's the place you came from, your first home.
She's the map you follow with every step you take.
She's your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy.
Nothing on earth can separate you.
Not time, not space ... Not even death!

~ Author Unknown



Before I Was A Mom

Before I was a Mom
I made and ate hot meals.
I had unstained clothing.
I had quiet conversations on the phone.

Before I was a Mom,
I slept as late as I wanted
And never worried about how late I got into bed.
I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday.

Before I was a Mom
I cleaned my house each day.
I never tripped over toys or forgot words of lullabies.

Before I was a Mom
I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.

Before I was a Mom
I had never been puked on
Pooped on
Spit on
Chewed on
Peed on
Or pinched by tiny fingers

Before I was a Mom
I had complete control of:
My thoughts
My body
And my mind.
I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom
I never held down a screaming child
So that doctors could do tests
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put them down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces
When I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that someone so small
Could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond between a Mother and her child.
I didn't know that someone so small
Could make me feel so important.

Before I was a Mom
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night
every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay

I had never known the warmth
The joy
The love
The heartache
The wonder
And the delight of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.

~ Author Unknown

"When your heart speaks, take good notes." ~ Judith Campbell

"The beginning is the most important part of the work."
~ Plato, 5th century Greek philosopher, from "The Republic"

"We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive at where we started
And to know the place for the first time."
~ T. S. Elliot

"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." ~ Helen Keller

"Be as a page ~ That aches for a word ~ Which speaks on a theme ~ That is timeless."
~ Neil Diamond, "Be"

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